It has been the hope that some day I would meet another mother of a High Need baby. We could sit and share our experiences and understand each other in a way that most other mothers can't. It would be a blissful experience and we would laugh and joke together.
Guess what? Today it happened for me!
The school that my husband is going to has a really nice fitness facility that we get free membership to because he's a student. (Well, it's not free really, they just included it in the enormous amount we are paying in tuition). There is this great pool that has a lap area, a super fun slide and a beach entrance with a very slow progression of getting deeper so young ones can enjoy it too! So, being that the last three days here in Southern California have been MISERABLE I thought it would be a great time to enjoy the pool. So we sunscreened up and headed out. (This is when I accidentally locked the door behind me and realized my keys were in the house. Then my husband had to leave school to rescue us. It's been a long day).
So, when we got to the beach entrance, where we hang out, I was getting us all ready and I see this mom and little boy interacting together. She was asking him to stop jumping in the pool and he was jumping in the pool over and over again. He was very persistent and energetic. I actually thought to myself... I bet he's a high needs kid. I laughed to myself and my son and I did our own thing. Soon enough they were right next to us playing with a toy they had brought. They saw that my little one was interested in it and so they brought it over. This little boy, Alex, was not so thrilled about sharing his toy. His way of showing that was to collect some pool water in his mouth and release it over my son's head. My guy did NOT like this, he cried and his mom scolded him, to which he grabbed their cup and dumped it over my son's head. He went directly to time-out.
Later, they came over to us and he apologized. Alex went off playing and his mom and I sat and talked. It's funny because she is the one who used the words high needs first. I told her that my little guy has been a challenge and she said "Oh, did your pediatrician tell you he's high needs?" I told her I haven't discussed that specifically with the ped. but that I did my own research and discovered that he is. We found so much comfort in knowing that we understood each other and patted each other on the back (not literally) for being a good mom. The thing that stuck in my mind is the fact that her son is "3 years and 9 months" and he's her only child. She said, "It makes you not want to have another doesn't it?" I told her we felt the same way, but that I can't imagine letting him be an only child.
What a blessing to finally meet another high needs mommy! Have you met another?